Have you ever attended a kids’ sporting event? Especially a younger group (say 3rd grade-ish)?
Watching my youngest daughter’s lacrosse games is a mind-numbing experience.
Full disclosure: I have nothing but respect and gratitude for any person who is willing to sacrifice his or her time to coach youth sports of any kind. But that doesn’t change the fact that getting a “good” coach is simply a matter of good luck . . . or bad luck.
A good coach will teach the fundamentals and “the game” (whatever the game happens to be) and provide the team members with a positive, enriching experience that will translate into everything they do in life going forward. Children will also learn a love of “the game” and will most-likely pay forward in the future, becoming good coaches as well; in both sports and life. A good coach will drill those fundamentals in practice, and they will automatically translate forward during the game.
A bad coach will cause confusion and frustration. A bad coach barks instructions incessantly during the game and berates players. A child who is playing for a bad coach doesn’t want to go to practice, doesn’t feel empowered or confident, and thinks about quitting. “This isn’t for me.” In this environment, the two or three best-skilled players move forward and all the rest slide backward and ultimately vanish.
I’ve had good and bad coaches throughout my life, but was lucky enough to start with a really good one. Len Bechetti helped me develop a love for baseball and a willingness to become a coach after I stopped playing. In my 12 years coaching baseball in Newtown our team Pizza Palace (“The Palace”) never had a losing season. We stood for fun and teamwork. We taught fundamentals and instilled a confidence in those 13-15 year-olds that they were “different.” They believed they were royalty when they put on those ugly sky blue uniforms, and (even in school) they all walked like champions in April, May, and June every year.
It was a culture. Every kid in the league wanted to play for The Palace.
This coaching phenomenon holds true in every aspect of life and, of course, network marketing.
If you learn from a person who makes it fun, empowers you, and makes you walk like a champion you will excel.
If you’re coached by a person who has his own interest at heart, has an agenda, doesn’t care, and doesn’t know the fundamentals . . . you’re doomed. Yes, the few elite ones can rise above but the majority will fall by the wayside.
If you’re a child you have no choice in the matter. But if you’re an adult, you can do something about it.
Find a coach that brings out the best in you. Your current (and future) self will thank you for it.