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Misplaced Trust

When was the last time you were betrayed?

Was there ever an instance where you believed so much in somebody or something that you ignored the “red flags” and all the well-intentioned advice of your close friends only to learn the hard way?

Trust is an interesting virtue.  scorpion-and-frog


In the fable, “The Frog and the Scorpion,” the scorpion asks the frog for a ride across the river.

“If I let you on my back, you’ll sting me,” said the frog.

“But if I sting you we’ll both die, as I cannot swim,” replied the scorpion.

Accepting that logic, the frog allows the scorpion onto his back and they set off across the river. Halfway, though, the frog feels the sharp pain of the scorpion’s stinger in his back.

“Why?” mutters the frog as paralysis overcomes him, “Now we will both die.”

“I can’t help it,” answered the scorpion. “I’m a scorpion. It’s my nature.”

Rap music icon, Tupak Shakur was famous for his lyric, “Trust no one.” Certainly it wasn’t Tupak who coined the phrase, nor was he the one who popularized the concept, but it’s one that’s commonly referred to in business and in life.

I submit, despite the potential of betrayal, that trusting is a good thing. And we as individuals should select the stance that best serves us.

What a sad world it would be if we made the decision not to trust anybody. It’s a real lack-conscious mentality. I took a bad “stinger” recently, but am making the choice to continue to move forward expecting the best in others, and always giving people the benefit of the doubt. I’ll trust people and believe in their inherent good. I’ll probably get stung again, eventually, but that’s life.

Hopefully I can improve my swimming and enjoy a different fate than the frog.

Life’s too short.


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Imposing YOUR Goals Upon Others?

Screen Shot 2014-12-03 at 10.41.50 AMWhen I first attended a network marketing opportunity meeting, I was told the story of a guy in that company, a former high school gym teacher, who was earning over $1 million every month. It was the story that changed my life.

 My initial thought was “wow, if I could do just one-tenth that well . . . and nobody’s ten times better than me at anything!” It was that night, March 1, 1998 that I knew that I’d become a millionaire in network marketing.

But as much as that story was my blessing, it was my curse. Because as a “wet-behind-the-ears” network marketing rookie, I instantly assumed that everybody would relate to that story. I mean, come on! A million a month?!

What I came to find, though, was that I’m not most people. Most people don’t believe its a possibility to earn that kind of money and are turned off at the mere suggestion. Hence, telling my favorite story would not attract people, but instead drive them away.

And even when I became a seasoned professional, because of the way in which I was indoctrinated, I continue to impose my goals on other people. It’s in my DNA and very hard to dismiss.

So, what is a win in network marketing?

To me, its been $1 million a month. So, even though I’ve won a lot, according to my own goals and expectations, I really haven’t won yet. So I play the game on fire, often discouraged.

If somebody joins network marketing with a goal to earn $100 a week extra and they achieve that goal, have they won? Conventional wisdom would say “yes” but my own Tommyville DNA says “no.” Hence, since I haven’t helped anybody become a millionaire yet – I feel as though I haven’t helped anybody win. And maybe that’s not the case. Maybe people are winning around me all the time. Hmm.

Always remember that its important to root out and identify the goals and expectations of the people who join your team. This way you know what a win looks like for THEM, not you.

It will save you a lot of hours on the network marketing shrink couch.

* This blog is dedicated to the million dollar man himself, Paul Orberson. After I spent 15 years striving to be Paul, now he’d gladly switch places with me. Paul succumbed to cancer (making a great argument for “perspective.”) Count your blessings and always cherish what’s most important. RIP, Paul.


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